Biblical principles can guide relationships
CCCNW Crossroads Resolution Group founder David Schlacter will share his healthy relationship expertise Jan. 28 at groups next meeting
As the founder of Portland-based Crossroads Resolution Group, David Schlacter has traveled across the country helping individuals, families, churches, businesses and other organizations foster healthy relationships and find solutions to conflicts.
On Jan. 28, Schlacter will present an overview of his faith-based approach to relational wisdom and conflict resolution at the Christian Chamber of Commerce of the Northwests (CCCNW) monthly meeting in Newberg.
Schlacters technique relies upon biblical principles to guide how individuals and groups regard relationships and react to conflict. An easy example is the Golden Rule, a common sense principle that most people recognize regardless of their religious affiliation.
Relational wisdom, which is referred to as emotional intelligence (EI) in secular parlance, provides the structure of Schlacters approach.
So its really looking at an EI approach, but looking at it from the context of saying, What does scripture say about that? Schlacter said. Scripture has a lot to say throughout it, in Psalms and elsewhere, that its important for us to understand how other people perceive us and are reading us and reacting to us.
There are three major components to the approach, the first of which asks whether one is self aware, or conscious of the role ones own emotions and perceptions play in relating to others.
The second is to be other aware, or sensitive to how ones words impact others and how others respond to them.
The third component, which isnt a part of the secular approach, is to be God aware, or thoughtful about how scripture instructs us to act toward others in general or in specific situations.
If you look at Galatians 3:12, it talks about being kind to one another, carrying each others burdens and forgiving each other, Schlacter said. Those are principles God brings to me, so when Im interacting with you, maybe we dont have a conflict at all, but how am I being compassionate to that other person, in my speech, in my engagement with you?
When working with any individual or group, Schlacter said he hopes to give people the tools to both prevent conflicts from arising and how to diffuse them when such situations arise.
Schlacter also served as a vice president for Peacemaker Ministries, directing the Institute for Christian Conciliation from 2005 to 2012. He did his undergraduate work at Valparaiso University in Indiana and received his law degree at the University of Denver in Colorado.
The meeting, which is free to CCCNW members and $5 for non-members and guests who make reservations at www.cccnw.net, will run from 7:30 to 9 a.m. at George Fox Universitys Villa Academic Center.