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Biblical principles can guide relationships

CCCNW — Crossroads Resolution Group founder David Schlacter will share his healthy relationship expertise Jan. 28 at groups next meeting


As the founder of Portland-based Crossroads Resolution Group, David Schlacter has traveled across the country helping individuals, families, churches, businesses and other organizations foster healthy relationships and find solutions to conflicts.

On Jan. 28, Schlacter will present an overview of his faith-based approach to relational wisdom and conflict resolution at the Christian Chamber of Commerce of the Northwest’s (CCCNW) monthly meeting in Newberg.

Schlacter’s technique relies upon biblical principles to guide how individuals and groups regard relationships and react to conflict. An easy example is the Golden Rule, a common sense principle that most people recognize regardless of their religious affiliation.

Relational wisdom, which is referred to as emotional intelligence (EI) in secular parlance, provides the structure of Schlacter’s approach. Schlacter

“So it’s really looking at an EI approach, but looking at it from the context of saying, ‘What does scripture say about that?’” Schlacter said. “Scripture has a lot to say throughout it, in Psalms and elsewhere, that it’s important for us to understand how other people perceive us and are reading us and reacting to us.”

There are three major components to the approach, the first of which asks whether one is “self aware,” or conscious of the role one’s own emotions and perceptions play in relating to others.

The second is to be “other aware,” or sensitive to how one’s words impact others and how others respond to them.

The third component, which isn’t a part of the secular approach, is to be “God aware,” or thoughtful about how scripture instructs us to act toward others in general or in specific situations.

“If you look at Galatians 3:12, it talks about being kind to one another, carrying each other’s burdens and forgiving each other,” Schlacter said. “Those are principles God brings to me, so when I’m interacting with you, maybe we don’t have a conflict at all, but how am I being compassionate to that other person, in my speech, in my engagement with you?”

When working with any individual or group, Schlacter said he hopes to give people the tools to both prevent conflicts from arising and how to diffuse them when such situations arise.

Schlacter also served as a vice president for Peacemaker Ministries, directing the Institute for Christian Conciliation from 2005 to 2012. He did his undergraduate work at Valparaiso University in Indiana and received his law degree at the University of Denver in Colorado.

The meeting, which is free to CCCNW members and $5 for non-members and guests who make reservations at www.cccnw.net, will run from 7:30 to 9 a.m. at George Fox University’s Villa Academic Center.

For more information, call John Fortmeyer at 503-537-9220, Deborah Tilden at 775-224-0717, the chamber office at 503-928-8354 or send an email to This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. .




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