Massage therapist Ginger Ross donates time for grieving mothers after losing her own babies
When Ginger Ross suffered a loss, she said she felt herself slipping into a black hole of despair. But thinking of her boys, Rex and Rogue, she decided to find a positive and help others.
I got pregnant through (in vitro fertilization) with twin boys and I ended up losing them at 22 weeks, Ross said. (Providence Newberg Medical Center) has been a godsend to us. Thats kind of where my whole business started.
As a massage therapist, Ross has been offering complimentary massages to women who lose children late term.
When people were asking what I needed, I needed a massage. I needed my body to be touched. I need the healing part of that, she said. Its just a big deal for a mom because your body is craving to hold a baby. My biggest thing is to allow the space for moms if they want to talk, talk. If they dont they can cry. If its all relaxation, thats fine too.
She started Guardian Angels Massage and Bodywork a little more than a year ago, on the one-year anniversary of what would have been her boys birthday.
I wanted them to be proud of who I became, she said. Its been a huge community support, and healing for me too on top of it.
In the past year, she said shes helped a handful of mothers and has been amazed it the similarities between herself and her patients.
I know with my second pregnancy I was so scared of getting pregnant with twins and having complications again. I was a freak show, a nervous wreck over everything, she said. (A recent patient) she said, Im such a stress case right now (with a new pregnancy). I totally get it.
Although she wants to help as many people as she can, Ross said she has to compliment the hospital staff.
They have a photographer that comes in before they take the baby away and theyll do photos for the family, she said. To know they were taking our babies and wed never see them again, that was so hard. To be able to have the photos its something that if it hadnt happened to me, Id think it was weird, but its been really healing for us.
Theres also the Nora Madelyn Foundation, which Ross said pays for a lot of the help they received from the hospital, including taking care of funeral arrangements and the butterfly release ceremony every summer.
They read the babys names and have parents come up and you release a monarch (butterfly), she said. Its such a community support that I feel like it just needs to be brought into awareness for a lot of moms that are out there going through miscarriage or still born.
Currently focusing on spending time with her 1-year-old, Dax, Ross said eventually shed like to expand her reach past the Newberg community to help as many mothers as possible.
I want it to be a support for as many people as I can, but for now my priority is my family and having enough time with my son, she said. As long as I know thats peaceful and taken care of I feel the rest will come into place.
To learn more about Guardian Angels Massage, visit www.facebook.com/ guardianangelsmandb.